The first, most important, and probably the most difficult step to take in your self-care practice is making time to be still.
What It’s Not
- Reading a book
- Listening to soft music
- Doing yoga
- Getting a mani/pedi
- Drinking wine
- Going for a run
- Playing Chess
- Solving a jigsaw puzzle
All of these are activities that can help calm, re-center, and provide stress relief. However, the type of stillness I’m referring to is the experience of just being.
What’s the Purpose?
The purpose is to bring yourself to the place of pure consciousness where you can meet your Self, learn your Self, and align with your Self. Deepak Chopra calls this the place of Pure Potentiality, where all possibilities and infinite creativity exist. This is where our spiritual essence resides, chillin’ with our true desires, knowledge, balance, invincibility, and bliss.
When you discover your Essence and really begin to know thyself, you will have the ability to succeed at whatever you attempt. This is because your desires come from your internal essence, not from the ego or any outside programming.
Change Your Life by Being Still
Your journey to Pure Consciousness is made up of 4 components:
- Make time to just be, by closing off the channels of communication between you and the world. In the beginning, your inner voice may get a little louder to compensate, but once it realizes that you are not transmitting communications – through speaking, reading, listening to music – then it will quiet and you will begin to experience the profound stillness of Pure Consciousness. You can start with 15 minutes, 1 hour, or 2 hours, eventually leading up to full day or a full week. I know your work schedule, or kids, or just the way your life is set up might not allow for such extended periods of time in silence. Try to work some in anyway.
- As you begin to witness stillness, begin a daily meditation routine for at least 30 minutes a day. Ideally, I suggest 30 minutes in the morning, and 30 minutes in the evening. This brings pure awareness to your pure silence. Imagine sitting on the banks of a still pond, with no movement, no wind blowing, no fish or turtles flitting about. The surface of the pond is like an undisturbed silk sheet. This is stillness. Your observance of its characteristics is awareness. Then you throw a pebble and watch the ripples radiate outward. This is what happens when you introduce your intention into the stillness. If your mind chops about with so much turbulence, then the field cannot recognize your true desires and cannot create the waves needed to lead you to your destination.
- Stop judging, evaluating, classifying, labeling, analyzing, anticipating, justifying, explaining. Everything that is, is. Everything that happened, happened. Everything that will be, will be. The constant wheel-turning blocks the flow of energy between you and Pure Consciousness because it keeps your internal dialogue busy with thoughts. When you come out of your meditation or moment of silence, then move through your day without judging anything that occurs. Start small if necessary: “For the next hour, I won’t judge anything.”
- Witness the connection to nature. When you spend time with nature, you will begin to notice the oldest and truest coexistence of duality – the experience of constant still and constant busyness. The loud and the quiet. The stagnation and the evolution. Bearing witness to the infinite creativity of nature, along with your stillness, awareness, and meditation — all of this plops you right in the field of all possibilities. This is where you are born. This is where your essence exists. This is where the creator in you creates.
The first step, the first leap, the first jump is often the most difficult, but I have faith in you. Practice finding stillness for the next 7 days, then come back and tell me about it!
Information in this post was inspired by Deepak Chopra’s book, the 7 Spiritual Laws of Success.
Being still is Law 1.
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