Three scenarios where chaos loves to and will take over if you allow it:
Space — Mind — Life.
– Imagining entering a room and the door won’t open past a 45-degree angle. Piles of paper and stacks of boxes are covered in sheets just to make it look…something.
– Every reminder you have is in your head, because there’s no place to write them down without getting lost in the quagmire. At night, your brain can’t shut off for wondering about what you might have forgotten during the day, and stressing about the things you hope you won’t forget tomorrow.
– Those reminders in your head are so frazzled, they go off at the wrong time, i.e., AFTER the due date = that bill is late = late fee. You forgot to take the frozen chicken out this morning, so dinner is either fast food or a question mark sandwich.
You forgot 3 things from the grocery store anyway, so now you have to find time to go back, and when you do — yep, they’re out.
At the end of the day when everybody’s asleep and your laundry still needs to be done and all you want is a glass of wine, you have to improvise because you broke the cork screw last time and — you guessed it — forgot to get a new one.
THEN—— can we stop there? I think you get the point.
When we get here, sometimes we get stuck in a rut.
I used to get so focused on how frustrated I was and how much of a terrible, horrible, no-good, very bad day (or week or month or year) I’m having, that I lost sight of what happiness really was.
Stressing can suck the gratitude right out of you.
According to Marie Kondo in her book, “The Life Changing Magic of Tidying Up,” putting your house in order should be done quickly to be able to confront the important issues behind why your house (and mind) were cluttered in the first place.
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Tidying is not the end goal, but a tool to reach the end goal which is (pay attention) to establish the lifestyle you want once your house is in order.
Who would you be if everything in your life was together?
If you took a 90-minute nap at 3pm Sunday, what does 24 hours of your new life look like from the time you wake up?
The motivation to clean up is mainly sustained by seeing tangible, immediate results.
So, here’s a project for you:
- Take a huge trash bag and go in your room. Start on the wall to your left when you enter the room, and work clockwise.
- Begin throwing away everything you haven’t used in over 1 month. If you have to debate over it for longer than 5 seconds, throw it away.
- Of what’s left, whatever needs to be washed, start washing it – laundry, dishes, window sills, curtains.
- Clean in, under, and around the center piece of furniture (e.g., bedroom – bed, living room – couch): Make the bed, clean under the mattress, behind the headboard, under the couch cushions, etc.
- Now, it’s time to LEAP forward:
– Like with like.
– Eliminate all trash, items to donate, items that belong in another room, etc.
– Assign everything a home. Keys go on these hooks, coats go here, shoes go here. If you polish your nails in the kitchen, then make a space in the kitchen for your nail polish and manicure kit. If you can’t find or create an address for an item, get rid of it.
– Purchase any storage solutions you may need only after you’ve incorporated the ones you already have (boxes, racks, bins, etc.).
Pushing all the clutter from one room to the hall closet is the same way we push all of the unresolved thoughts and anxieties to a far corner of our mind.
We still have that nagging feeling of having to deal with the junk in the hall closet sooner or later.
Even if you don’t know where to begin with decluttering your mind, then put on some music, pour some coffee or wine, get some trash bags, and start a physical decluttering in your space.
Feeling the air freshen and the room brighten will iron out some wrinkles in your mind and start you on the mental decluttering process.
As above, so below. As within, so without. As the universe, so the soul.