Self-Care is the best care, and getting organized is one of the highest forms of self-care.
Because you’re amazing and as much as you take care of everyone else, you deserve to take care of yourself, your needs and your wants.
Don’t give me that typical
bullsh*t response: “OK yeah, I agree, but when do I have time for that?”
I read that as, “When do I have time for me?” or “How am I gonna make myself a priority without feeling guilty?”
Well, first of all, let’s get a clear picture of all the ways you take care of everyone else. Because think about it, if you’re doing it for somebody else, their care needs are being met.
Are yours? Who’s doing it for you?
I’ve identified 10 areas of Self-Care that we can tend to on a regular basis that’ll save us time and give us peace of mind once we learn to schedule it appropriately.
At first glance, it may seem daunting, but if you keep a record of everything you do in a day’s time, you’ll notice that you hit every one of these points every single day – on a good day. It’s the bad days where we usually neglect one, two, five, or all of these.
AND THAT’S OK! Those days where you’re intentional about doing nothing? That’s a day you own, a day that you rest, a day that guilt and shame cannot permeate. Those are my favorite days because I can put on my pajamas, watch Harry Potter with my 5-year-old, eat chocolate, maybe paint and drink tea all day.
The result? We’re happy, well-rested, and ready to take on another week.
I don’t know if you’ve noticed, but those times when we neglect ourselves usually turn into moments of pure disaster.
Here’s a story:
I schedule my Home/Car care for Saturdays. That means oil changes, check fluids, tire pressure, wash, vacuum – all the gritty maintenance stuff that keeps things running smoothly. This is so necessary because I drive a car that’s almost as old as I am, but she’s still ticking and I love her.
Anyway, as of writing this, however, I’d been slipping.
I was leaving the gym one morning, sitting in the car as it’s warming up. Few minutes later, I shift into drive and tap the gas – no movement.
I try again and it creeps forward 2-3 inches.
I say, “Maybe she just needs a few more minutes,” but in the back of my mind I’m thinking, “This is the big one, Elizabeth.” A new transmission right before Christmas.
I put it in reverse, and move back to my original spot. Trying to go forward again, same creep.
It was like my life flashed before my eyes: All those Saturday mornings when I decided not to check fluids; all that time I didn’t make Self-care (in the form of making sure I have working, reliable transportation) a priority.
Turns out, all I needed was a couple quarts of transmission fluid, little bit of power-steering fluid, and all is well.
But you can bet your ass I’m sticking to that schedule from now on. Even when I get Vanessa,* whatever kind of care she’s gonna need, it’s going into the rotation.
The point is that this can apply to any area of our Self-Care practice:
- If you skimp out on the gym/exercise/healthy eating,
- If you don’t regularly care for your finances,
- If you don’t nurture crucial social relationships,
- If you don’t practice some form of mental health care, and on & on.
So get organized.
Spend the time up front to save time later and get peace of mind now.
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With grace and love,